“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” - Albert Einstein
Now let me bring this to your situation.
You, or rather, your mind, and specifically, your emotional makeup, your intuitions, your parenting skills, were created by a process of your thinking. It cannot be changed without changing your thinking.
So, to change ourselves, we must change our thinking.
How can we do that?
My general advice is that you expand your world far beyond what your parents and your society showed you.
As you expand your world, you will replace your old thinking patterns with new thinking patterns. With enough of this kind of work, you will have replaced ALL of your unwanted thinking patterns created in childhood with new thinking patterns created in adulthood.
If you don't do this, then you will be ruled by the ideas that you adopted as a child. That means you'll be ruled by the ideas of your parents and society, rather than your own ideas.
You, or rather, your mind, and specifically, your emotional makeup, your intuitions, your parenting skills, were created by a process of your thinking. It cannot be changed without changing your thinking.
So, to change ourselves, we must change our thinking.
How can we do that?
My general advice is that you expand your world far beyond what your parents and your society showed you.
As you expand your world, you will replace your old thinking patterns with new thinking patterns. With enough of this kind of work, you will have replaced ALL of your unwanted thinking patterns created in childhood with new thinking patterns created in adulthood.
If you don't do this, then you will be ruled by the ideas that you adopted as a child. That means you'll be ruled by the ideas of your parents and society, rather than your own ideas.